Mentor Monday: Thankfulness and Gratitude

November is always a month of reflection. Today Kristina Blasen reminds us of how sometimes being thankful and showing your gratefulness is difficult. Please share your experiences with MOM.

Kristina BlasenBy Kristina Blasen

In my own life, thankfulness and gratitude is an area that I have struggled with…not in being thankful, but in how to show others that I appreciate their efforts and that I am grateful.

I’m not a demonstrative person, but this doesn’t mean that I’m not thankful for the help I’ve received from my friends and family. Sometimes you can say thank you and instead of the other person hearing thank you, they don’t hear these simple words as genuine gratitude, but instead as an empty platitude said out of obligation.

Sometimes you try to say thank you, but since the other person has their own needs that are not getting met, thank you isn’t enough- they need something else in order to really hear you and to internalize that you appreciate them and their efforts to help.

Sometimes we can overcome this challenge by trying to show thankfulness in unusual ways; instead of the words said as an empty platitude signed at the end of an e-mail, we might write a letter, do something nice for the person, find some unexpected way to give back and to help make their life easier so that they know that you really appreciated the help that was given to you.

Expressing thankfulness and gratitude has been especially hard for me in situations where the help that was given wasn’t enough to change a bad situation even though the person did everything they could to help make things better. We’ve all been there, watching people we care about suffer and feeling powerless to help them or make a lasting improvement in their life.

Part of learning to show thankfulness and gratitude is to help yourself by helping others and to learn to ask for and accept the help and support that is available to you. Instead of struggling in isolation and merely surviving, it is extremely important to form a community so that everybody can move forward, so that everybody can be successful together, so that everybody can have their dreams come true. In this way we transcend our circumstances and learn to overcome and be successful as an individual, a family and a community in spite of them.

You can make radical changes, you can feel FEAR and experience change and also GET THROUGH IT and it is worth it! You can decide to make the changes you’ve been thinking about starting right now.

My life’s journey is about helping others to realize their potential, to mentor others and encourage their dreams to become reality, to help others grow, to offer counsel and support, to offer a helping hand and is realized by being a catalyst for change.


Kristina BlasenKristina Blasen is a transformative life coach. She specializes in working with teens and adults to help them discover their life purpose and create a plan to turn their dreams into reality. She believes strongly in radical change! Do you need radical change in your life? She may be reached at:

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