Ladies: Don’t Let Your Unemployment Show

It’s Triple T Thursday. Today is the day, features action tools and tips to get you moving forward with your goal of achieving multiple streams of income. Remember, MOM is here for you and Kristina Blasen is back today with this essay to give you hope and ACTION steps to move forward. Don’t look unemployed, read this and take some positive steps to creating your best life! is here for you. Thanks, Tamara Patzer, publisher of MOM.

It’s raining today. Look up and be grateful. It’s sunny today. Look up and be grateful. Every day is a gift.

Kristina Blasen

By Kristina Blasen

Have you ever heard that saying, “Don’t let your unemployment show?” I was thinking about that today and it is true, when you are unemployed it is easy to “let it show” and a whole lot more work to make sure that it doesn’t.

What does that mean anyway, not to let it “show”? Well, here is the thing, when you are unemployed it is easy to give up hope and to go through the motions (not only of looking for work, but to go through the motions of living). I call this unemployment depression. Basically, like regular depression, but brought on my the situation of being unemployed rather than by chemical imbalance.

In other words, unemployment depression lifts pretty much the second you get a job and even lifts temporarily any time you have a job interview lined up (as hope soars) only to be followed by a return of unemployment depression (as hope dies when no call or offer is forthcoming).

“Unemployment” seeps into our view of our self internally and becomes a trait we begin to associate with ourselves unconsciously. Unfortunately, “unemployment” usually comes to stay with a boatload of negative friends like “worthless,” “unemployable,” “welfare bum,” “Section 8,” even “bad mom” that are married to emotions like “anger,” “depression,” “anxiety” and “fear.”

Between the negative self image, the nasty self talk and the terrible feelings, unemployment effects our whole attitude and self and IT SHOWS! With this kind of stuff taking up all the room in your head it is no wonder why you have trouble remembering any of your talents or accomplishments!

It isn’t easy, but you can work on not letting your unemployment show by:

  • Projecting a positive attitude, even if you have to fake it ’til you make it. Whether it is at home with family or in an interview situation, your hope and excitement are far more powerful and attractive to others than playing the blame game and feeling sorry for yourself.

  • Choosing to dress in nice clothing including make up and jewelry. This doesn’t have to be expensive, just keep your clothing washed & wrinkle free and try to look as nice as you can in your circumstances. Even if your shoes are old you can still wash or clean them with a damp cloth.

  • Keep your car clean and picked up inside, be kind to yourself, you don’t need to be riding around in a trash can just because you feel tired and bad about your life. Inaction makes you feel worse because you look around your environment and all you see is garbage and chaos.

  • The same goes for housework, if you are at home taking care of kids and looking for work and all you see is messy house, it is no surprise all your energy for getting things done goes right out the window. Set a timer and make yourself do something about it every day, even if it is just 15 minutes at a time to start.

  • Recognize signs of depression and get professional help if you are in a crisis. Ask for help and support from family and friends, don’t hide what you are going through, but ask them to help you stay positive and to take actions to improve your situation.

On a personal note, when you are walking around with painted toenails where the paint is all chipped off, your unemployment is showing! I’m sure the polish bottle is sitting at home somewhere, if not ask a friend!

The same goes for your overgrown eyebrows, no makeup and ratty hair that hasn’t seen a brush in awhile or that lives in a pony tail. You may not be able to do the professional highlights and expensive cut like you used to, but you can look your best by keeping your hair washed and brushed, putting some make up on and plucking the brows.

Start gathering up ideas on how to look and feel your best on a tiny budget because letting your unemployment show might make this nightmare and stress last longer and you want to be able to feel better, even if your stuck in jobless purgatory.

  • Check online for the ingredients for facials made from food like honey or cucumber

  • Get what you need from neighborhood garage sales that you can walk to

  • Check the Craigslist free ads

  • Post a Craigslist ad asking for what you need for free, like business clothing, shoes, makeup

  • Look for “free” stores and “free” garage sales in your area

  • Apply for help from programs that offer business clothing and makeovers

  • Find items to sell or trade with others

These are just a few ACTIONS you can take today to feel better and to stop letting your unemployment show!

Kristina Blasen

My life’s journey is about helping others to realize their potential, to mentor others and encourage their dreams to become reality, to help others grow, to offer counsel and support, to offer a helping hand and is realized by being a catalyst for change.

Kristina Blasen is a transformative life coach. She specializes in working with teens and adults to help them discover their life purpose and create a plan to turn their dreams into reality. She believes strongly in radical change! Do you need radical change in your life? She may be reached at:

~Kristina Blasen

1 Response to "Ladies: Don’t Let Your Unemployment Show"

Leave a Comment